Why The Hectic Life Of Violette Daily Is Different
Hi, I am back with a question that I am often asked Why The Hectic Life Of Violette Daily Is Different? I would like to tell you a little more about it so that you can understand me a little better.
I don’t know what I’ve been doing all this time and how could I have missed leave my blog apart like this! Too busy for you, maybe?! Never!! I hope you (didn’t) missed me
too much! 🙂
To explain myself about that, I don’t really know where to start! … I have so much to tell, I’m such in a chatty mood lately, so hope i you’re in a mood to read a lot!!
I’ve been kind of lost the past few days, weeks — or even moths, maybe? — that I couldn’t find the time to keep posting here, on my blog. It seems paradoxical to me because I had all this time, way more than you think, but the motivation was missing. When I say motivation, this time I’m not talking about coffee (haha) but another type of motivation, which I’m going to tell you about right now.
I know why I started this blog after my accident. Then, I wasn’t sure what I was getting into. After that, I kept going on the fashion blog thing with a very normal life-like…while still having moments…uh how can I say…where returns to reality were hard! I don’t know if you know what I’m talking about, but I’ll try to explain further!
How Come The Motivation Was Gone?
Motivation is my ultimate problem: it can be a strength as well as a weakness. Motivation is the key element that drives us towards our goals. I need, almost like a vital need, to have a reward before/after to keep this motivation, fluctuating like the stock market, just like everyone else.
I have my own reachable rewards like Schoko-Bons before working out, or buying a nail polish… Or going to the hairdresser when I feel like everything is going wrong, my favorite!
And sometimes, these rewards are not working.
For example: when I get tired, mentally tired more precisely, I can’t do anything that need a reflection, focusing… These actions, essentials of everyday life, are part of the cognitive fatigue.
How Cognitive Fatigue Works And Is There A Remedy?
I would have wished there was! But there’s no remedy, no medicines, no treatment. The only “treatment” — although I’m not sure if we can consider it a treatment — is working on your mental abilities, in order to strengthen or even re-create them, in my case. The most annoying thing I’ve ever done, for around two years, in my entire life. So I’m trying to work on these cognitive disorders with the simplest daily life things, with my blog, watching a movie, remembering a grocery list, and so on.
To give another exemple, I never watch an entire movie because I can’t stay focused. This is why I prefer watching series, and even more when it’s only 20 minutes (40 minutes is already kind of…mental effort for me!).
So, Why Aren’t You Tired After Working Out?!
That’s THE question everyone is asking me, here the answer!
There are different kind of fatigue: one comes from your body and another comes from brain (cognitive fatigue). The fatigue from what I am “suffering” is the second one. Now I can finally give a proper explanation to my “problem” (so glad by the way haha!).
Working out is actually my remedy to that fatigue, you need to be focused, be mentally strong and determined, or you won’t be able to progress. It helps a lot to get motivating and I LOVE the feeling of good sport session, it’s indescribably amazing! It’s my moment to exteriorise, leave apart all the problems and feel independent.
For the past years, I gained so many strength thanks to sport! It developed a competitive spirit and a want to succeed. If I fail, it doesn’t matter, I start over until I get there. And the day I do, I’m the happiest girl in the world!
This is the most relevant therapy I could ever find. So much better than a psychologist, I swear! Or it’s depends on your personal taste…
My Blog Is Also A Kind Of Therapy
Writing all your thoughts down is a way to escape. I had to juggle between the medical and the blogger things. Not that easy, as you might don’t know, to juggle between the brain injury life and the normal person-like one.
I have a
huge complexe and don’t assume at all these invisible disabilities. This why I like to post on Instagram, it makes me feel I am so like you! I’m finally figuring out that some blogs has been created after a huge passion for fashion and were visually very alike.
So yes: I love fashion, I love beauty. And actually, I’m loving even more beauty than fashion. Beauty is SO general, there is makeup, skin care, haire care… All of these are so important for me because I remember how ugly I felt being hair-shaved and a whole on my box head. No long blonde princess-like hair anymore, dull complexion, kind of forgot what a red lippie looked like (…). Such superficial issues, I know, but it’s crucial to feel like a beautiful women.
I also want to share and explain these things that, I hope, can make you understand how difficult it is to start all over again a life because of a mugging. Even harder when you have to start knowing that you have a several handicaps, you’re not on the same capacity’s level than anyone else.
This Is My Difference
The blog competition is huge, I understood that you have to develop and maintain your very own and unique difference to stand out of the crowd. And above all, being sincere, true and accept our flaws. This is what I’m doing because I want to share my life, what a blog is originally made for, and how I am struggling and succeeding
I have a very big and kind heart (maybe too much?), so soft as you could take a nap on it. A very sensitive person, crying when I crush an ant. Flesh, blood and plastic (to replace the head box), an almost super hero girl! I’m tired of people that can’t get it and explain all over and over again! Although, I can understand that as I don’t have any physical damages… Does it means we have to be physically damaged to hear our voice…?!
I really wish you fearlessly get/got what I’m trying to tell you.
I manage to do many things like you, I just need more time, and life goes on! Remember to be happy, find the greatest in the worst, trust in yourself. I do believe that one day your dreams come true.
Now, I’m done and I feel so much better to talk about my life of brain injury girl!